March 21, 2013–Cut It Off

Darren's family March 2013“If your hand or your foot causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life maimed or crippled than to have two hands or two feet and be thrown into eternal fire. And if your eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into the fire of hell.” (Matthew 18:8-9)

When I was a young man this Scripture used to scare me.  At that time I wrestled with many impure thoughts and sexual sin.  Had I taken it literally I probably wouldn’t be a father to six kids today.

They said of Origen, one of the early church fathers, that he castrated himself for the gospel’s sake.  He followed a literal interpretation of Matthew 19:12: “For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from [their] mother’s womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake. He that is able to receive [it], let him receive [it].”

Truthfully I don’t know what Jesus meant when he said these things, but I have come to an understanding of them that rests easy in my heart.

I only came to the Lord when I was 32 years old.  Before that I committed a lot of sexual sin.  I was addicted to pornography and going on the internet was especially difficult for me.

When I came to Christ, I still wrestled with my thought life.  What was I to do? Gouge out my eyes or cut off my hands because of these sins in my life?

What we need to do is ask God to show us the things He wishes us to cut off from our lives and how to do it.

For me, the struggle against pornography and sexual sin lessened as I removed a computer from my house.  So there was a season that I lived this way.

If you have trouble with alcohol then cutting off associations with people who would tempt you to drink might be good for a time.  I did that too.

If you have trouble with buying drugs in the city streets, maybe move to the country and live in an isolated place for a time until you are healed of your need for drugs.

By staying away from the places that are associated with your sin, you are lessening the likelihood of these temptations arising in your life.

If you have trouble dealing with a need for power, then perhaps serving the poor, handicapped or needy will help you to overcome this deadly desire.  Perhaps losing yourself in humble circumstances and serving the poor will help you to overcome the need for power.

This is what Saint Francis of Assisi did.  He was a wealthy man and a successful soldier who chose to be poor and weak.  In cutting himself off from the wealth and trappings of man, he became beloved by all.

John 15 that says that every branch that is in Christ is pruned in order to make it more fruitful.  We must remember that it is not by our own effort that we become free from sin.  It is a work of Holy Spirit in our lives.

As we listen to God and do as He says we will be free.  The things that once bound us become easier to deal with as we listen to Him more and more.

It was because of Christ’s work on the cross that we are free.  There is no work of our own that can set us free, but we are free by the Grace of God.

Let God touch your hearts today.  Let Him free you from your sins.  Let Him direct you as to what to cut off and when.

He will help you advance toward your destiny.

March 20, 2013–Understanding Your Gift (Os Hillman)

Spiritual-Gift“Now about spiritual gifts, brothers, I do not want you to be ignorant.” (I Corinthians 12:1)

In First Corinthians 12 and Romans 12, the apostle Paul is teaching us about the role of spiritual gifts in the Church. He correlates these gifts to a human body, telling us that each person’s gift helps the whole Body of the Church.

This is such an important principle for us to learn. I must say I learned this principle regarding my own spiritual gift the hard way.

“God will never speak as strongly to you as to someone else,” said my mentor to me one day.

The statement shocked me. “What in the world do you mean by that?” I argued with him.

“Your spiritual gift of administration/leading is one of the most dangerous gifts in the whole Body of Christ. The reason is that you can see the big picture better than anyone else, and you’re so task-oriented that you will run people into the ground getting your project completed because you think you see it so clearly. That is why the best friend you could ever have is someone with a prophetic gift to discern whether the big picture you see is actually the picture God is directing. It is the one gift that can almost stand alone better than any other – at least that is the opinion of the one with that gift.”

Oh, how I have learned this lesson the hard way! He was so right. There have been many a church staff destroyed by a person with the gift of administration.

During my years as an ad agency owner, I saw how I stressed out my staff because of the tremendous load I put on them with multiple projects. It was so easy for me because the more balls I had juggling, the better I felt. I was oblivious to how my multi-task personality impacted those around me.

Today, I have some special relationships with intercessors and prophetic people whom I depend on for confirmation of direction. I have learned their spiritual gifts of discernment are of great value in determining strategic direction.

I have learned that God has placed within each person a spiritual gift that is designed to make the Body of Christ function better for His purposes. When we discover the spiritual gifts God has placed in those around us, we are better able to see the Body function as a real body-totally dependent on one another.

Some of us are more sensitive to God’s voice because God has gifted us in that way. Others of us are less sensitive because God wants us to depend on others in the Body for their gifts. Find out whom God has placed around you today and discover a new dimension of spiritual productivity.

(Reprinted by permission from the author. Os Hillman is an international speaker and author of 15 books on workplace calling. To learn more, visit http://www.MarketplaceLeaders.org)

March 19, 2013–The Butterfly Effect

Butterfly EffectBy means of his one Spirit, we all said good-bye to our partial and piecemeal lives. We each used to independently call our own shots, but then we entered into a large and integrated life in which he has the final say in everything. (This is what we proclaimed in word and action when we were baptized.)  (I Corinthians 12:13, The Message)

The apostle Paul received a revelation that has revolutionized the Church ever since then.

It is so simple, yet so profound.

The Church is “the Body of Christ.”

That’s it. Period.

Please note, Paul does not say that the Church is LIKE a body. He says that the Church IS the Body of Christ.

He is not offering an analogy. He is stating a reality.

It is a reality into which we entered when we chose to be baptized.

Sometimes we describe baptism as a rite of initiation.

Actually it is an act of incorporation.

The word “incorporation” literally means “to be united into one body.” (The Latin word for body is “corpus”).

In I Corinthians 12, Paul lists a number of consequences of being part of Christ’s body.

All of them are meant to hammer home one unmistakeable fact.

We are no longer independent. We are interdependent.

No body part can function on its own. Every body part needs every other part to do its part!

What one part does affects every other part in one way or another. For good or for bad.

What one Christian does affects every other Christian. For better or for worse.

We usually become aware of this when something extraordinary happens somewhere in the Church.

We hear about someone like a Mother Teresa who lays down her life to serve the poor, the destitute and the dying.

The rest of the Body of Christ is inspired by her infectious example to serve Jesus in the face of the “least of these” as well.

At the other end of the spectrum, a scandal comes to light. Whether it involves sex, money or abuse, the rest of the Body feels the pain, doesn’t it?

You may be familiar with The Butterfly Effect, an idea used in chaos theory, that a very small difference in the initial state of a physical system can make a significant difference to the state at some later time

So, for example, a butterfly flapping its wings in Brazil could set off currents that might ultimately cause a hurricane in Texas!

In other words, a seemingly insignificant action can have significant repercussions to those who are not part of the immediate surroundings.

Whenever the Church is rocked by yet another scandal, I often wonder whether the individual(s) involved ever stopped to consider their interconnectedness in the Body.

If we were to simply pause to consider how our actions trigger a Butterfly Effect of sorts within the Body, would we not reconsider anything that might have a negative impact?

By the same token, would we not also be motivated to know that a simple gesture of love offered to a homeless person in downtown Toronto has a positive effect on the Body of Christ in Tokyo?

Paul’s revelation in I Corinthians 12 reminds us that we need to live with a heightened awareness of the incorporation that took place at our baptism.

We do not live our lives in isolation. We are connected with one another. Even our destinies are intertwined.

For we are now part of the Body of Christ.

March 18, 2013–Celebrating St. Patrick’s Day

St Patrick Shamrock ImageDuring the night Paul had a vision of a man of Macedonia standing and begging him, “Come over to Macedonia and help us.” After Paul had seen the vision, we got ready at once to leave for Macedonia, concluding that God had called us to preach the gospel to them. (Acts 16:9-10)

Did you celebrate St. Patrick’s Day today?

Sulojana and I did, even though we are not Irish (not even close…lol!) or have any fondness for corned beef, cabbage or green beer!

No, we did not go to church dressed as shamrocks either! Sulojana did wear an outfit that had shades of green. I wore black pants and a red shirt with no hint of green whatsoever.

Soooo, how then did we celebrate?

Actually, we took some time to study the life of St. Patrick and how he came to be the patron saint of Ireland.

Here is what we discovered.

Patrick was born in Britain to a relatively wealthy family. He was not religious as a youth and, in fact, claims to have practically renounced the faith of his family.

While in his teens, Patrick was kidnapped in a raid and transported to Ireland, where he was enslaved to a local warlord and worked as a shepherd.

It was while he was a slave that he started praying to God and received a revelation of God as He truly is—Father, Son & Holy Spirit. According to some sources, he would later teach this revelation of the Trinity using the three leaves of the shamrock.

After six years of slavery in Ireland, Patrick had a dream in which he heard a mysterious voice: “Your hungers are rewarded: You are going home. Look, your ship is ready.” He escaped, but had to walk for 200 miles to eventually get on board!

A few years after he’d returned home, he had another dream. Victoricus, a man Patrick knew in Ireland, appeared to him in this dream, holding countless letters, one of which he handed to Patrick.

The letter was entitled “The Voice of the Irish.” Upon reading just the title, he heard a multitude of voices crying out to him: “Holy boy, we beg you to come and walk among us once more.”

He was so moved by this that he was unable to read further and woke up. He tried to ignore the dream, but it kept on recurring over and over again.

Eventually Patrick told his dismayed family of his plans to return to evangelize Ireland and soon began his preparations for the priesthood.

When he finally returned to Ireland, he went about preaching the Gospel, baptizing converts, confirming them and appointing clergy to disciple them.

He personally baptized over 120,000 people and planted 300 churches during the 29 years he spent in Ireland.

Wow! No wonder he is considered the patron saint of Ireland.

Were you aware of his story?

When we discovered how Patrick was obedient to God’s promptings in dreams, we couldn’t help but think of how the apostle Paul responded to the vision featuring “a man of Macedonia.”

Like St. Paul, St. Patrick chose to obey the call of God…and the rest is history.

Now you know why celebrated St. Patrick’s Day today by discovering his story, sharing it with others in church and giving thanks to God for his life and witness.

Whether you are Irish or not, whether you celebrated St. Patrick’s Day the traditional way or not, you too can still praise God for St. Patrick, amen?

March 17, 2013–Desire the Greater Gifts

spiritual-gifts“Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of it. And God has placed in the church first of all apostles, second prophets, third teachers, then miracles, then gifts of healing, of helping, of guidance, and of different kinds of tongues. Are all apostles? Are all prophets? Are all teachers? Do all work miracles? Do all have gifts of healing? Do all speak in tongues? Do all interpret? Now eagerly desire the greater gifts.” (1 Corinthians 12:27-31)

Desiring to walk in the greater gifts is something that Paul commanded the Corinthians to do. If we were commanded to desire these gifts then it must be possible for us to obtain them.

There must be something in the desiring of these gifts that produces the gift within us. Therefore as we extend ourselves toward God an understanding of these gifts may burst deeper in our hearts and then burst into the world around us.

As we walk this path of faith we are inspired to have faith by Holy Spirit to become something greater than what we are today.

I have walked in many of the gifts of the Spirit and as such I have become a gift to the church.  In becoming a gift to the church I mean to say that my life is a watering hole where people can come to find God.

In desiring to become this gift I am stating to the Lord that I am willing to allow Him to use me to bless whoever He wishes to bless.  My life is no longer my own but it is His to do as He desires.

In this way I become a gift because I am opening my life up in such a way that it becomes an example of what God can do in a life that is open to Him.  The desiring produces the ability to obtain to or become the gift.

I personally will not be satisfied until I become everything that I can become in Christ.  That means I will have to extend myself in ways that I never even imagined and in ways which now may seem uncomfortable, but extend myself I will in order to become the greater gift.

If one of the gifts to the church is to be an apostle, then I desire to be an apostle, because Paul commanded me to desire the greater gifts. I only have a vague notion of the role of an apostle, but because Paul tells me to desire this gift, then I will desire it, and I expect to become one because apparently the way to be one is to desire to be one.

I want to be used in the most incredible ways by God.  If the Lord should tarry I want my testimony to be such that people will look back and say Darren Canning was a man who walked with the Spirit of God.

When he prayed for you things happened.  When he commanded the devil to leave he left.  When he prayed for the sick they were healed.  When he prayed for the dead they rose.  When he preached fire fell from heaven and lives were completely transformed.

In fact I want my witness to grow even stronger once I am gone.  I want people to be learning from me until the end of time.

I desire this inside more than I desire anything else, more than I desire breath and more than I desire life.  I want to be remembered as a mighty man of God filled with the presence of God.  There is nothing wrong with this desire because I am desiring the greater gifts.

I want the Lord to say to me, “You were given much in life and you gave much in life.  Well done, my friend, well done.”

I don’t want to be accused of not using the talents He offered me.  I want to use every last drop of life that I have for the Lord, and in the end I want to hear His voice calling me home to my rest.

Would you also “eagerly desire the greater gifts?”

March 16, 2013–How the Word of Wisdom operates

wisdom“To one there is given through the Spirit a message of wisdom, to another a message of knowledge by means of the same Spirit…” (1 Corinthians 12:8)

I love the gifts of the Spirit and I love the ambiguity that exists within the scripture regarding how they operate.  We should not be uncomfortable with ambiguity, because within a relationship with Holy Spirit these gifts can manifest in many different ways.

I have heard people try to become dogmatic about my prophetic gifting and state exactly what gift was operating when I prophesied over them.  They will say, “That was a word of knowledge, and not a word of wisdom,” or they will say, “You weren’t operating with a spirit of knowledge but rather you were prophesying.”

I am glad that you have it all figured out (!) but I personally do not.

I do know that there are times when I ask God for direction in prayer that a word of wisdom will come to me.

The other day I was having trouble with my taxes.  I worked for 15 hours and did my taxes 3 or 4 times, but I was not satisfied with the results.  Because of my unique tax situation, my way of dealing with my taxes is not straightforward and so I had to learn how to do them correctly.

But after all those attempts, I was really frustrated with my results.  I went to the kitchen of my house and my wife was there.  I asked her to pray with me.

I sat on my chair and faced the wall and I said “Lord I am very heavy. I don’t know how to do these taxes. I want to be a man of integrity regarding them, but I also want to be able to maximize my return.”

Within two minutes the phone rang.  It was my mother, who with all due respect, does not know how to do her taxes.  She goes to H & R Block each year and gets them to do them for her.

On the phone she says to me “Why not use the other program?”

My mother had no idea that I had purchased two software programs to do my taxes.  She may not have even known that I had purchased one of them.

When I heard this, it was a word of wisdom to me. It gave me a direction to follow.  As I stepped into it and applied the word that came, my tax problems ended very quickly.  I went to my computer and completed my taxes within 30 minutes, using this other program.

It was a much better program and allowed me to claim expenses that the other program would not allow me to claim, even though I knew they were acceptable expenses according to the Canada Revenue Agency Manual that I was working with.

I ended up maximizing my tax return and felt a great measure of satisfaction in knowing that I had taken the ethical course and claimed all my earnings from the previous year.

To me that is how a Word of Wisdom works.

We have an area where we lack understanding, direction or knowledge.  When we pray and seek Holy Spirit, He often uses other people to speak that wisdom we are lacking.  They may or may not know that they are operating in wisdom.

To be honest, when a person speaks the answer to my dilemma without knowing all the details of my situation, I find that more satisfying. This gives me confidence that the answer is coming from God and not the person in front of me.

How have you experienced this spiritual gift in operation in your life? Please share your responses with the rest of your DWOD family.

March 15, 2013–Watch Your Mouth

In the DWOD for Feb. 27, 2013 we shared how we realized the need to “do away with the pointing finger and malicious talk” (Isaiah 58:9) when we started fasting during Lent a year ago.

During this year’s Fast, as we have been reflecting on Ephesians 4 for five days now, the Lord reminds us once again to pay special attention to the words we speak.

“Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but only what is good for building others up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear.” (Ephesians 4:29)

Let’s do a study of some of the key words in this passage, shall we?

The Greek word “sapros” which is translated “corrupt” in this passage is used in three primary ways in Scripture and elsewhere to describe that which is:

  • rotten, putrefied
  • corrupted by one and no longer fit for use, worn out
  • of poor quality, bad, unfit for use, worthless

No matter which meaning you choose, it is clear that there is nothing good about the impact of speech that is “sapros” upon the recipient.

Now we know why Paul urges us not to use any word that falls into one or more of these three categories.

He then goes on to describe the kind of words that the Lord wants us to use.

“Only what is good for building others up as the need may be.”

The Greek word “oikodomen” translated “building” literally refers to the act of erecting a building.

Metaphorically, it refers to words that edify, build another up, promote another’s growth.

This, of course, is in stark contrast to words that tear someone down.

Paul does not stop there though. He goes on to describe the effect our words need to have on the listeners.

“That it may give grace to those who hear.”

“Charis”, the Greek word for grace appears over 150 times in the New Testament, in one form or another. It is the same root from which we get words such as “charismatic” which simply means one who is gifted.

Theologically we often define grace as unmerited favour, a gift we do not deserve.

At a very basic level though, grace is defined as “that which affords joy, pleasure, delight, sweetness, charm, loveliness.”

Perhaps this is what Solomon meant in Proverbs 16:24: “Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.”

Notice how the word “gracious” comes out of the same word “grace!”

Would you like to try an experiment?

Using your phone or other portable device, record every word you use to talk to others or describe others in your conversation for an hour, a few hours or an entire day…

Now go back and classify them using the three criteria from Ephesians 4:29:

  • “Rotten” words
  • “Edifying” words
  • “Grace-imparting” words

Would there be some pleasant surprises? Nasty shocks?

Is the new Pope named Francis?

Better still, what if we would pause for a few seconds and watch our mouth before we speak into the lives of others?

“Sapros” words would never see the light of day.

Only words that build others up will make it past the door of our lips.

Those who hear them will respond as though they had just tasted honey.

Wow!

The Lord will smile upon us as we fulfill his command: “Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but only what is good for building others up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear.”

Amen?

March 14, 2013–Do not Grieve the Holy Spirit

grieving-the-holy-spirit-bestA good friend of mine asked me today: “What is the difference between grieving and quenching Holy Spirit?”

I immediately went to the Scriptures looking for an answer and this is what I came up with.

Ephesians 4:30 says, “And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.” 

Many people might read this verse and get confused wondering how in the world do you grieve Holy Spirit.

I would suggest that the answer to this question lies in the context in which this verse is placed.

There are a number of sins that are listed in verses 25 to 30.  I would suggest to you that when we practice such sins, either willingly or unknowingly. we entertain the possibility of hurting or grieving the Holy Spirit.

When I lie, steal, get angry, brawl with people, slander people or sin sexually, these are all obstacles that hurt my relationship with Holy Spirit.

When I hold malice and bitterness in my heart toward those that have hurt me instead of forgiving them, then these are matters that separate me from God.

If I do not practice repentance and forgiveness because I am proud, then I am grieving the Holy Spirit.

This can only be rectified by repenting of my sin and/or forgiving the person that hurt me.

And then there is the matter of quenching the Holy Spirit.

In Scripture “to quench” means “to stop.” This is different than grieving.  Grieving is about my internal response to the sins of my life and the hurts perpetrated upon me.  Quenching the Spirit is stopping Holy Spirit from moving in and through our lives.

My friend Kathie Walters shares how while she was still living in England,  one day she found herself challenged by God as she was walking home from a grocery store.

Holy Spirit told her to raise her hands and to sing and praise him publicly as she was walking.

Well, of course, this was a matter of contention for her because she was afraid that she would be mocked or misunderstood by the people that saw her.

The Lord said to her: “Do you wish for a religious spirit to return to you?”  Immediately she began to worship the Lord in the streets.

We must always be aware that Holy Spirit is wishing to move through our lives.  The person that is free in the spirit is always making room for Him to move.  We quench or stop the spirit from moving when we do not allow Him to move.

This can happen at an individual level but also at a corporate level.

It is a sin that is different from some of the other sins but is often masked by religious tradition.

As people we have ideas of how God should and shouldn’t move.  We even have ideas on what He should and shouldn’t say.  He is God and has His own mind and His own ideas. Where our thoughts and ideas clash with His, then I would suggest to you that we must submit to His ways so that something greater might be produced.

Some of my greatest experiences came when I didn’t suppress Holy Spirit from moving through me.  Some of the greatest meetings that I have been in we didn’t even know what God was doing but we let him do it anyway.

Submitting to God is trusting in Him that He is good and that His ways are higher than our ways.  When I submit to God good is always produced.  This is my experience and I submit to Him every time He speaks.

In order to advance into our destiny, we would do well to neither grieve nor quench Holy Spirit, amen?

March 13, 2013–Give the devil No Ground(s)

AFootInTheDoorLook at these three translations of Ephesians 4:27:

“Do not give the devil a foothold.” (New International)
“Nor give place to the devil.” (New King James)
“Do not give the devil an opportunity.” (New American Standard)

They all agree on two key words: “give” and “the devil.”

It is the third key word on which there seems to be considerable variance.

Checking a Greek lexicon provides some clues.

The Greek word that has been translated in these three different ways is: “Topos.”

You may recognize “topos” as the root of such English words as “topography” and “topology.”

The literal meaning of “topos” is geographical space or place.

In other words, Paul is warning against giving the devil room to enter a space that is rightfully ours.

Don’t give him any ground.

Hence the translation “nor give place” to the devil.

You can see how “foothold” is also related to physical space.

Don’t give the devil an opening to get his foot in the door, so to speak.

The metaphorical meaning of “topos” is opportunity.

Don’t give the devil any opportunity to get a foothold in your life.

Please notice also that he cannot invade your personal space without your consent.

This is clear from Paul’s choice of the word “didomi” which is translated “give.”

This word literally means “to give of one’s own accord.”

We are not forced or coerced into it.

We give it to him voluntarily.

How do we make such a voluntary contribution?

Paul’s list in verses 25-31 includes a number of possibilities:
•    Lying
•    Staying Angry
•    Stealing
•    Laziness
•    Unwholesome talk
•    Bitterness
•    Rage
•    Brawling
•    Slander and
•    Malice.

Every time we commit these and similar offences, we give the devil grounds to enter our sacred space.

Needless to say he takes full advantage of every opportunity that we offer him.

What begins as a foothold can soon end up as a stronghold.

Footholds can be kicked out easily. Strongholds need to be demolished with difficulty.

Clearly, it is preferable to close off every possible access point, such as those on Paul’s list.

As we continue our journey through this season of Lent and the 40 Day Fast, perhaps now is the time to examine ways in which we may be allowing the devil access into our lives.

Would you ask the Holy Spirit to show you how you may have unwittingly provided grounds for him to gain a foothold?

Repent. And then “get rid of” whatever he shows you.

Then replace it with some new behaviour.

“And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.” (v. 32)

You have just removed all grounds for him to gain any ground.

Hallelujah!

March 12, 2013–Unity Takes Effort

Jeeva & Sulojana Dec. 2012“Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.” (Ephesians 4:3)

Consider a family where there are six people who share the same last name—say a father, mother and four children.

The six of them already have a unity that comes from being part of the same clan. Their bloodlines, genes, history have already created a unity that is indisputable.

However, since no two people in that family are alike, there are times when conflict is bound to arise.

These differences of opinion can result in disputes that disrupt the unity that they have.

As a matter of fact, they can downright destroy the unity, not to mention the family…

Unless someone makes an attempt to work through the issues, and keep the family unit  intact.

Sharing the same last name, gene pool, etc. is not an automatic guarantee of unity.

It takes time, effort and energy to maintain that unity, especially when disagreements arise.

Something similar happens within the family we call the Church too, doesn’t it?

The Voice Translation puts it this way: “Make every effort to preserve the unity the Spirit has already created, with peace binding you together.”

Yes, we are united by the spiritual DNA of Jesus. We share, as Paul reminds us in verses 4-6: “one body and one Spirit…one Lord, one faith, one baptism; one God and Father of all.”

Regardless of all that holds us together in unity, there are also times when conflict arises and threatens to pull us apart.

On the one hand, unity is a given, a fact of life, a created reality.

Yet, on the other hand, unity cannot be taken for granted. It needs to be re-created so to speak…over and over again.

It takes work to make this happen, doesn’t it?

The Amplified Version stresses this: Be eager and strive earnestly to guard and keep the harmony and oneness of [and produced by] the Spirit in the binding power of peace.”

Conflict has arisen on many an occasion in my life over the past 55 years of being a son and a brother in a biological family as well as a husband and father in the family that formed when Sulojana and I got married nearly 30 years ago.

Ditto for the 30 plus years of service as an ordained minister in the United Church of Canada.

While we have worked our way through most of that conflict constructively, we must also admit that not all of it led to happy endings.

Although conflict is inevitable in any family where there is honest and open communication, how we deal with it can make all the difference.

That is why, even before getting to the part about making every effort to preserve the unity”, Paul says:

“Be humble and gentle in every way. Be patient with each other and lovingly accept each other.” (v. 2)

Before we get into conflict resolution or seek mediation, Paul calls for a character evaluation.

  • “Am I humble and gentle in every way?”
  • “Am I patient with my brothers and sisters and lovingly accept everyone of them?”

If the answer is “Yes” to both questions, rejoice!

If not, it’s time to repent, amen?

Shall we make a conscious attempt to turn around and change by the power of the Holy Spirit?

That would be taking the first step in making an effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.”